Can A Bad Boy Be Good? Hell Yeah! 10 Reasons How, and Why, He Could Be A Bad Good Boy

1. He’s confident in his masculinity, which is a perfect match to your confident femininity. Women want a man, but not just any ‘ol man, but
one who is extremely confident, extremely strong,
extremely powerful, extremely SHIT-TOGETHER
FELLA! He’s one who knows he’s a man, who
deeply embraces it, and who relishes simmering in
his wonderful testosterone marinade each and every day he lifts his head from the pillow. He is
driven by something that is at the epicenter of his
Bad Good Boy lusciousness, which is that he loves
anything and everything about women — the
stronger, feistier, funnier, saucier, and sexier she is,
the better. 2. He loves to give as much, or more, as he receives in the bedroom. There’s nothing better for a woman than when a
man truly knows his way around downtown, and
doesn’t have to ask her for directions on where to
go. A man who loves to not only please, but who is
really good at it is a keeper, no? The one thing that makes a Bad Good Boy so good
for a woman is that he understands, on a
fundamental level, that every time he is with his
partner, the experience is going to be a unique
one. She is never the same woman twice in the
bedroom, and that is what makes sex so fun and exciting. No one knows where the sensual journey
is going, how long it’s going to last, or what’s going
to happen. What should be known, however, is
that both participants are willing to fully surrender
themselves to their sensual sauce they serve up
together. Bad Good Boy gets that, oh so well, and that’s what makes him so damn badishly good in
bed. 3. He picks the right moment to make you the center of attention. A Bad Good Boy, despite all his flaws (and there can
be many), really really really (yes, three reallys!)
understands how to communicate with a woman.
Bad Good Boys are open and transparent with
what they are thinking and feeling. Granted, at
times, it may not be what you want to hear, but it’s pure honesty, coming right at ya! When you bring a
Bad Good Boy home, when he is with you, he is all
about making you the center of attention. When he’s not with you, he might be on to other
things, or other women, but you have accepted
that as his Bad Boy side. Listen, if you sign up to be
with a Bad Boy, even if he is a Bad Good Boy, you
can’t then claim to be a victim afterwards. With
either a Bad Boy or a Bad Good Boy, as one woman recently told me, “there are no victims; there’s just
volunteers.” You should know what you were
getting into when you go out with a Bad Boy or
Bad Good Boy. So don’t whine if you don’t hear
back from him. One final thought on this before we
move on, from another female reader: “Bad Boys are really just Good Boys gone wild.” 4. He knows when to take you. There’s a little secret out there that many women
have shared with me — they love to be taken when
it’s the right mood and moment. This is probably
going to light up the comments board for this
week’s column, but the bottom line is that there are
a number of women (remember, this is what they shared with me) who get tingles when, in the
throes of passion, she’s lifted up against a
refrigerator or wall, pulled behind a car in a parking
lot and pressed up against the car door, or led by
the hand into a restaurant bathroom and placed on
the sink. Moments like these are electrical, magical, and marvelous, and there’s nothing wrong with it,
at all, just as long as she’s game. A Bad Good Boy
knows when that moment presents itself, and he
hits his mark, every time, when she gives him the
sign. 5. He doesn’t suffocate you with his own problems, and respects — no worships — your independence. No woman has ever been attracted to a whiny man.
A guy who goes on and on about his problems at
work, his past girlfriends or exes, sounds more like
a little boy who can’t take care of himself than a
grown man. Adult dating, I’ve found, thrives when
both parties don’t need each other, but want each other. I recently sat next to a very professional woman on
a flight who travels the world as an event planner
for pharma conferences. She dates a captain of a
ship, and she has a wonderful relationship with
him, she says, because they are LATs — Living
Apart Together. I know another woman who dated a doctor for 12 years, happily, when she lived in
New York and he was in Boston. One day, he
wanted her to move to Boston. She didn’t. The LAT
was done. According to a study entitled “Living Apart Together” Relationships in the United States”, published in 2009, one third of couples not married
or who are co-habitating in the US are LAT couples.
No wonder airline prices keep going up! 6. He knows he can be an asshole, but when he is, he’s an asshole with a lower case “a” and is never a Capital A Asshole. When I was married, my wife, when she got mad at
me about something or other, would call me an
“asshole,” to which I responded “yes, I can be an
asshole, but always remember that I am an asshole
with a lower case ‘a’ and not a Capital A Asshole.” As we all know, there is a big difference between
the two. Sure, the lower case asshole can get under
your skin, can be self-serving and can be about all
things him, but most of the time, he thinks of
others, including you, and is caring, compassionate,
and believe it or not, giving. Bad Good Boys fall into this lower case a-hole category. A Capital A Asshole, on the other hand, is ALWAYS
about himself, who doesn’t care, at all, about you,
unless it does something to serve his needs. He
puffs his chest out with a huge A on it, and steps
over everyone and everything in his way. Here’s
the worst part — most Capital A Assholes are sociopaths, and if you see or sense one, you should
run away from him as fast as your legs can carry
you. In the book The Sociopath Next Door: The Ruthless Versus The Rest of Us, a sociopath is defined as someone who is all about “controlling others —
winning — is more compelling than anything (or
anyone) else.” The book goes on to claim that 1 out
of 25 folks out there are sociopaths. The DSM V states that when it comes to psychopathy, men are
three times more likely to be one than women. We don’t have to go far down the street to find a
Capital A Asshole guy these days. I know one who
broke up with his wife of just six short months.
When they got married, he conveniently forgot to
mention that he registered the communal house in
his name only, and when he moved out, he conveniently forgot to tell her that he put the house
on the market before she had a chance to retain a
divorce attorney. How did she find out about him
putting the house on the market? Her neighbor
saw the listing, and knocked on the door to tell her.
That’s what you call a casebook Capital A Asshole. 7. He “gets it” when it comes to your intelligence and humor. Connection is chemistry. Sure there is the physical
attraction part, and that can’t be denied, but a lot of
chemical connection happens at the intellectual
level, especially when it comes to the humor zone.
It’s my theory that there are two types of folks in
the world — serious ones, and funny ones. The two just don’t mix. They are like oil and water. So, if
you are one of the funny ones, you have to be with
another funny one. When the person you are with
makes you laugh, a lot, they are keepers, right? Bad
Good Boys are funny, damn funny in fact. So laugh
away. 8. He loves to explore everything, and wants you to come along with him for wild adventures as his co-pilot. Living life, really living it, is about taking the road
less traveled. It’s about finding that little hole in the
wall bar or restaurant, hiking trail, swimming hole,
campsite, gallery, music venue, whatever, that you
explore, with vigor. The same gusto for adventure
should happen when it’s just the two of you, as you explore new and different roads of joy and
wonderment together. Bad Good Boys are all about
finding out the answer to the ultimate question in
the Talking Heads song “Once in a Lifetime”: “Where does that highway go to?” And he’s going to find
out, with you, so strap yourself in, and enjoy the
ride. 9. He looks amazing — ok hot — because he makes it a top priority to take great care of his body, but at the same time isn’t full of himself (that’s why he’s not a Capital A asshole — See #6). Men today are being held to the same standards as
women when it comes to being physically fit- as
they should be. Bad Good Boys can be found, in
droves, early in the morning, pumping iron at the
gym, pumping up the hill in clusters clipped into
their touring bikes, pumping their arms and legs in a lake, ocean or pool. They want to be healthy,
happy, wealthy, and wise, so they are committed to
working, and working out, improving themselves,
each and every day. Why wouldn’t you want to be
with a fella like that? Exactly. 10. He’s extremely passionate, and always rocks your world. The internal combustion of a Bad Good Boy is
passion. He’s frothy, fiery, formidable. He’s an
incredibly intoxicating love potion for women. No
woman wants to be with a Bore, especially when
she’s a fiery, furious, formidable female herself. The irony of the word passion is that it is derived
from the Latin verb pati which means “to suffer”
according to the Merriam-Webster dictionary. If passion is suffering, then suffering never hurt so
good when it comes to the Bad Good Boy.

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